Saturday, February 15, 2014

Why Should Christians Go To Church

This week I was asked to read a blog post (and it’s follow up) posted by a well read author, and comment my opinion. As I read them and started to reply, I realized I had much more to say on the subject than I would feel comfortable putting in a comment. So, here is my response to a blog post from a Christian who seems to believe attending church and church membership are not biblical or essential. He says he doesn’t attend church very often because he doesn’t “learn much about God hearing a sermon” and doesn’t “connect with him by singing songs to him. So, like most men, a traditional church service can be somewhat long and difficult to get through.” 
Before I get into this, I want to clarify; I do not believe attending church or church membership will send anyone to Heaven.  I am not here to judge anyone for not attending church. However, I believe attending church is a biblical command and essential to grow as a Christian. We need solid Christian leadership and community to see ourselves as we really are and learn to let God change the things that need to be changed.
Personally, I can see why some people would want to do "church" the way this writer suggests.  I can definitely relate to him, as he claims to be a "hands on" learner; and that is his reason for not wanting to sit through sermons.  I, myself, am better at learning through experiences and practice. Historically, I haven't been a person who learns well from lectures or reading.  I can also understand why someone would resist a structured system of authority, such as church leadership, to help keep us accountable to the teaching of the Bible. 
With that said, I do not think "doing church" the way he explains in his blog posts is biblical or even helpful. Personally, I see a lot of holes in his understanding of the church and it's purpose. 
My first thought from this post is the author’s claim to learn only through hands on experiences. I don't really understand how to learn from God's word without reading it or hearing it read. Traditionally, I have been mostly a hands on learner. As a teenager and young adult, I may have been caught falling asleep during a sermon or two. I could even fall asleep as I tried to read my bible, it didn’t interest me enough to pay attention. What changed? My heart changed!! With the help of the Holy Spirit, I not only really like to listen to my pastors preach each week, I usually hear something awesome to apply to my life and my understanding of God. One benefit of going to church and hearing a sermon weekly is that the Holy Spirit says different things to different people using the same scripture. As for reading my bible, even now, I could stand to read my bible more (a lot more). However, I now enjoy reading it and I enjoy hearing from the Holy Spirit when I do take the time to read my Bible. It is time I never regret afterwards.
So for you “hands on” learners out there who find it difficult to sit through a sermon, you can ask God to help you connect to him through it. You don’t have to take in the entire sermon to find something you can relate to in it. My pastor has an example of this I would like to share: If you are standing in a rainstorm, you don’t have to take on all of the rain to get wet. I believe not trying is like holding up an umbrella to what God may want to tell you. In the follow-up post, the author uses an analogy of using different camera angles to approach the subject of “church.” I like the idea of using different camera angles to approach scripture, and I can’t do that by myself. Sometimes God uses my pastor or another church teacher to show me the different angles I fail to notice on my own.
Jeremiah 33:3 (ESV)
Call to me and I will answer you, and will tell you great and hidden things that you have not known.
My second, but not less important, thought is his views on worship. Actually, he seems to have left them out. He wrote that he “connects” with God through his work but didn’t share how he “worships” God.   The first and foremost commandment God gives us is about worship. Exodus 20:3 says, "You shall have no other gods before me." For the purpose of this blog post, I will give him the benefit of the doubt and write as if that is what he meant.  Worshiping God through work is commendable and commanded. But so is worshiping God through song and every other area of our lives.
Colossians 3:16,17 (ESV)
16 Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God. 17 And whatever you do, in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
Sometimes I don’t feel like singing to God, or even worse, sometimes I sing to God without actually singing “to God.” I sing the words and try to make it sound pretty, but I do it more to hear myself sing than for him. Does that mean I should stop singing? I don’t think so. When sin entered the world it corrupted us to our very core. We will find a way to worship ourselves in everything we do without the help of the Holy Spirit. When I am not finding “intimacy with God” while trying to worship, I ask him to change my heart, not the circumstances of my worship.
I love this quote from Warren Wiersbe:
“We worship God because He is worthy and not because we as worshipers get something out of it. If we look upon worship only as a means of getting something from God, rather than giving something to God, then we make God our servant instead of our Lord, and the elements of worship become a cheap formula for selfish gratification.”
I fear using work as a primary means of worship would leave ourselves open to substituting our worship of God with worship of ourselves. Especially when money is involved, as it is when working to build a business, it would take special perception from the Holy Spirit to be sure our motives are truly on God. I’m not saying we can’t or shouldn’t worship with our work, only that we should also find other, less self serving, ways to worship the God of the Universe.
In his follow up post, he takes a slightly more neutral stance, however he tells us the Bible does not instruct us “on building and running a church community.” He says,” the book of Acts has a few marching orders, but as a writer I assure you, that’s not the authors intent in that book. It’s a history of the early church and an encouragement for us.” To be honest, I’m not sure, “as a writer” he is qualified to tell us for sure the author’s intent in that book.  
He also says “Your church likely looks nothing like the church in the book of Acts, which, was not much of a prescription on how to do church anyway. There are some marching orders in the book, but there aren’t many. Mostly those direct instructions are about choosing elders and deacons and dividing up each others money so that it’s shared. But that’s mostly it.”
2 Timothy 3:16 (ESV)
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness
There are many churches trying to model themselves after the “early church” in Acts.
Act 2:42-47 (ESV)
42 And they devoted themselves to the apostles' teaching and the fellowship, to the breaking of bread and the prayers. 43 And awe came upon every soul, and many wonders and signs were being done through the apostles. 44 And all who believed were together and had all things in common. 45 And they were selling their possessions and belongings and distributing the proceeds to all, as any had need. 46 And day by day, attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes, they received their food with glad and generous hearts, 47 praising God and having favor with all the people. And the Lord added to their number day by day those who were being saved.
This says they:
·         They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching (Modern day sermons and bible reading)
·         They devoted themselves to fellowship…..attending the temple together and breaking bread in their homes (Modern day worship gatherings and small groups).
·         They devoted themselves to the breaking of bread and the prayers. (Modern day communion and prayer meeting or services).
·         The Lord added to their number day by day to those who were being saved (Modern day Evangelism).
This model sounds very much like many of the modern day churches I have been to. Are they all perfectly like this? Absolutely not!!  But keep in mind, all churches are made up of human beings and directly affected by sin. 
One misconception about this passage is about money. It doesn’t say they sold all of their possessions and distributed all of it. It says they sold their belongings and distributed it as any had need. This would be similar to a modern day church having a rummage sale for a family in need, or maybe taking donations from other members to help out someone in need. This, too, is expected and happens all the time in modern day churches.
I want to throw out two more scriptures that I believe directly instructs us to attend church:
Hebrews 13:17(ESV)
Obey your leaders and submit to them, for they are keeping watch over your souls, as those who will have to give an account. Let them do this with joy and not with groaning, for that would be of no advantage to you

1 Thessalonians 5:12,13(ESV)
12 We ask you, brothers, to respect those who labor among you and are over you in the Lord and admonish you, 13 and to esteem them very highly in love because of their work. Be at peace among yourselves
The only way to do that is by publicly committing to be members of their flock, and saying in effect, “I commit to listening to your teaching, following your direction, and to submitting to your leadership.” There’s no way to obey the scriptural commands to submit to your leaders if you never actually submit to them by joining a local church.

If I sound a little passionate about this topic, it’s because I am. When my husband and I returned to church several years ago, it was life changing. After never really being able to enjoy listening to a sermon, I felt God was directly talking to me, week after week. And my life changed forever. What would my life look like now if I had held up my umbrella and refused to find what God had for me? What type of state would my heart be in now if it wasn’t for the church community who were willing to speak into my life and show me things about myself I couldn’t see? As Christians, we need The Church.

If you would like to read the blog post I am commenting about, here are the links:
“I Don’t Worship God By Singing”
“Why I Don’t Go to Church Very Often: A Foll

Here is also a link to an open letter in response to these post that I really enjoyed reading:
Dear Donald Miller

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Saturday, November 2, 2013

How to Make Sugar Free Crock Pot Persimmon Applesauce



The other day, I got a call from some friendly acquaintances, asking me if I wanted some persimmon. They have a rental property in CA that has two different kinds of persimmon trees. At the time I had never heard of persimmon, but what the heck, it is fruit and it’s free. Awesome!!

On my way over to pick up the fruit, I got the idea to invite them to church. My church is finally, after several months of work, moving from a school to a dedicated building and I thought it the perfect occasion to ask them to join me.

            So, for me, to actually do this is a really big deal. Don’t ask me why, but the idea of asking people I don’t know very well to church terrifies me. Honestly, I really don’t even like to talk to too many people I don’t already know. I only know three people in the Reno area, outside of the people I know from church or BSF (Bible Study Fellowship), and this couple qualified as two of them. I suppose I am afraid of offending someone or overstepping. As I tell you this, I want to clarify, this is NOT OK. It is not OK to be more concerned with offending other people than offending God. Your relationship with your Heavenly Father is the most important relationship you will ever have, don’t take it for granted!! However, the only way to overcome a fear like this is to ask for His help and guidance.

            Well, with a strong conviction, I invited them to church. I originally asked the husband, as he was the one I was talking to at the time. He declined politely, then his wife spoke up and told me she wanted go. She told me she had been thinking of going back to church all of last week. Excited to see that it really was the Holy Spirit telling me to invite them, I offered to pick her up and take her this Sunday.

            Tomorrow is Sunday. I called her today to confirm and she sounded excited to go!! I don’t know what will happen tomorrow. I don’t know if she will ever come back after tomorrow. But I feel completely blessed and excited that God helped me get past my fear and I get to be apart of my friend’s journey. The idea that God could use me to fulfill any part of his purpose in this woman’s life is simply incredible!! So, when you feel called to spread the word of the Gospel, or invite someone to lunch or breakfast, in conjunction with going to church, know that the blessing you receive for doing his will is completely worth the possibility of an uncomfortable decline.

            While that was the excitement of the day in my world, I still had a lot of free fruit to use. After a bit of research, I have come up with a few uses for this fruit, persimmon.

            First of all, there are two types of persimmon trees, Hachiya and Fuyu. My friends gave me some of both. The Hachiya Persimmon fruit has a lot of tannins and needs to ripen fully before using. If they are not fully ripe, they have an astringent/bitter taste. So my Hachiya Persimmon fruit are in a box on my front porch as they finish ripening.

            The Fuyu Persimmon I was given is fully ripe, ready to use and really sweet. Almost a little too sweet for me, however, my two year old loved it!!

            I played around with it a little and came up with a really good applesauce recipe, using the Fuyu Persimmon. I used 6 (very small) organic apples and 3 persimmons. It is completely toddler and husband approved, and it is sugar free!!

 

  • 6 apples
  • 3 persimmons
  • 1 cinnamon stick
  • ¾ cup of water

 

    1. Peel and chop all apples and persimmons.
    2. Add to crock Pot with cinnamon stick and water
    3. Cook in crock pot on high for 5 hours.
    4. Remove the cinnamon stick, strain, blend and put in storage containers.

Easy Peasy!!

Check out the really cool reusable fruit pouches I use for my little one!! This saves me so much money on our grocery bill. Refilling these things is much less expensive than buying the organic applesauce pouches from the store!!! Here is the Amazon link:

 

 

Has God been calling you to do something you are afraid of doing? Do you care more about the opinion of your friends than of God’s? Will you “put yourself out there” to be apart of God’s plan?

 

May Your Joy Be Full,

Rachel

 

1 Thessalonians 2:4 (ESV)

4 t just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts.

 

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Thursday, October 24, 2013

My Calling as a Wife and Mother: Why I Do What I Do


It’s been awhile…….

My household has been through a very busy season. Between moving into a new house and potty training, I haven’t been able to devote a lot of time to this blog. Hopefully, now that we are all moved in, I will be able to free up some time to write.

I love writing this blog!! I love the idea that I may be able to use my experience to help people; whether it be sharing a wonderful recipe or cleaning tip, or giving perspective on body image or any other trials many of us Mommies go through. I love the fact that I can write about how wonderful God is and how he is constantly changing my heart and my life!!!!

But as much as I love to write this blog, I am a wife and a mommy first. My family’s needs must be my top priority. This is not only because I love them more than anything (other than God) but because this is my true calling. God has called me to be a wife and mother, and to give it everything I’ve got.

 Am I a perfect mom? Nope!! Is my home always impeccably clean? I wish!! In fact, I am a mom who gets exasperated at times!! Sometimes, I just sit here and pray for God to help my two year old because I have no idea how to handle him. Sometimes I feel like praying that all the dishes in my sink would be divinely clean….and put away!!

The only hope I have in this mission is that I know I can ask God for help when I feel like I’m not up to par. Sometimes a simple prayer is all I need to get my crying child to finally go to sleep. So far, God hasn’t cleaned my dishes for me, but he has changed my heart and given me the energy and motivation to do so myself.

Titus 2:4 says that older women are to “train the young women to love their husbands and children.” That is something I am hoping to do through this blog. My main purpose is not to train anyone to be an excellent cook or keep a perfect home. My purpose is to remind you why you do it. Because we love our husbands and children!! Taking good care of them is how we best show them our love. Taking good care of them is how we Glorify God!!! He loves them more than we do and he gave us the honor of extending that love to them!!

But in order to tell you, my readers, how to love your husbands and children, I have to be sure my priorities are right. And sometimes, that means you may not hear from me in a while.

Will I fall immeasurably short sometimes?  Absolutely!! Will my child make me cry? You can bet on it!! Will I go to bed with dirty dishes in the sink? More times than I would like to admit. Will it be worth all of the tears, self-doubt and complete dependency on God? Most definitely!! If I have learned nothing else in my thirty-something years of life, I have learned that God’s will is perfect and the joy I get from perusing his call is worth far more than a lifetime of my former salary. Sometimes he has to remind me of how joyful these days can be, but when he does, my heart sings!!


This makes my Heart Sing!!
May Your Joy Be Full,

Rachel

 

Titus 2:3-5 (ESV)

3Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, 4 and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the work of God may not be reviled.



 

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Friday, August 16, 2013

Banana Berry Trifle : Guilt Free, Gluten/Grain Free, Dairy Free and Refined Sugar Free


 
“All my life I live to follow

You alone as you change my desires

Liberated by the blood of Jesus

I’ve found life in the sweetness of freedom”

 

Tonight, as I stood in my kitchen, slicing strawberries for a yummy fruity dessert, I listened to this Citizen’s song, Sweetness Of Freedom. It made me think about how sweet our freedom in Christ really is.

 

I am so far from perfect. I sin every day. I sin thousands of times a day. It may be in an act, it may be in a thought or even in the absence of some sort of action. I usually don’t even realize when I’m doing it. Sometimes, I don’t even realize when I’ve already done it.

 

Sin can be tricky. What exactly is sin? When you Google sin, this is what you get: An immoral act considered to be a transgression against divine law. What constitutes an immoral act? What exactly is divine law? Divine Law is defined as a law that is believed to come directly from God. So I’m thinking 10 commandments. The 10 Commandments are laws that come directly from God. If we can follow all of the 10 commandments we can be free from sin? Don’t steal, don’t lie and don’t cheat on your spouse. That shouldn’t be too hard, at least you wouldn't think so.

 

So, with an easy set of rules, how do I find myself sinning all the time? There are too many answers to that question to put into one blog post. I can start with the first commandment and I’m already done before breakfast. “You shall have no other God’s before me.” Every morning, when I step on the scale, and I let it define the start of my day, I make my body image a god. I make that number a god. If I’m up a pound, I messed up and it’s going to be a bad day, if I’m down a pound, I feel proud and good all morning. The correct way to start my day would be to ditch the scale and start with a prayer, asking God to define my day; asking God to give me a great day. But generally, I turn to the scale to give me a good day. How do you know if you are making something a God? What pulls your focus from God? What do you esteem higher than God? It could be your job or your spouse; it could even be your kids. These are all good and important things. If you make God your God, he will help you to love and serve all of these better than you could without him.

 

That is one example of one of my common sins. It’s not something I purposely do; it’s just the direction my heart tends to follow. My heart is selfish and I will always, without the help of God, work to glorify myself.

 

You may be wondering how I can find my sin sweet. My sin is not sweet. My sin is pretty awful. Where I find the sweetness is in Jesus. Jesus took my heart and changed it. He took my desires and gave me his desires. I don’t have to feel defeated because of my sin because Jesus defeated my sin. He paid for all of the sins I have ever committed. He paid for all of the sins I have yet to commit. What do I have to give for this sweet freedom? Nothing!! All I have to do is believe and trust him. He does all of the work. I don’t try not to sin because I am afraid of going to Hell or that I fear I will make God mad at me. I try not to sin because Jesus changed my heart and made me not want to sin. I try to not sin because I love Jesus and want to do things that make him happy. I’m kind of like my two year old that way. When he does something we like, he tries to do it over and over because he likes making us happy with him; because he loves us. That's pretty sweet!! What is sweeter is that we love him whether he does things to please us or not. Our love is unconditional, as God’s love for us is unconditional. We are his adopted children and he loves us, even though we sin thousands of times a day!!

 

Speaking of sweetness, here is the recipe for the so very yummy and sweet Banana Berry Trifle I was working on when listening to this song. It is gluten/grain free, dairy free and refined sugar free!! And completely Guilt Free!!

 

Banana Berry Trifle

Here’s what you need:

·         1 or 2 Cans of Full Fat Coconut Milk (refrigerated overnight)

·         2 Lbs. of Strawberries (give or take, it depends on how many layers and how thick you layer them)

·         5 Bananas (give or take a banana, I had extra and froze them for future banana/peanut butter ice cream)

·         About ¼ cup of Real Maple Syrup (check the label for any other ingredients, there shouldn’t be any)

·         About 2 tsp. of Cinnamon (to taste)

·         About 1 tsp. of Nutmeg(to taste)

·         Extra Berries for Topping (I had blueberries and raspberries)

·         Glass bowl or Large Glass Measuring Bowl or a Trifle Bowl (something glass and deep)

 

 

 

1.      Core and slice the strawberries. I use an egg slicer to do the slicing. This makes the strawberries a uniform size and takes a tenth of the time. Set the bowl of strawberries aside.


2.      Peel and slice the bananas, set aside.


3.      Remove thick fatty portion of Coconut milk. I strain mine. Save and refrigerate the thin portion for something else. I have been using the leftover milk for a DIY all natural shampoo I’m working on. I’ll let you know how it turns out.

4.      Whip the coconut cream with a mixer until it starts to form peaks, like whipped cream. I use my stand mixer but I’m sure you can use a hand mixer.

5.      Add Maple Syrup, preferably while still mixing the cream. This could take a little more or a little less, depending on how sweet you want it. Keep in mind the strawberries and bananas are already pretty sweet, so a little does a lot.

6.      Add cinnamon and nutmeg while still mixing. As with the syrup, I do this to taste, too, measurments aren't exact.

7.      Mix until you get medium peaks. I have never got this cream to make stiff peaks, but it will make medium peaks. It’s done if it stands up when you lift the mixer out of the cream.

8.      Put Cream in the freezer and continue to do this between layers. (You may not need to do this if your house is pretty cool, it was upwards of 90 degrees here)

I filled in bananas after the picture!!
9.      Layer the bottom of the glass bowl with strawberries. I try to make my strawberry layer somewhat thick so you can see the layers through the cream. Start with strawberries, not bananas, because the bananas change color after being out of the peel too long.

10.  Layer the bananas then cover with cream.

11.  Repeat the layering process until you are out of strawberries, bananas or cream, or until you run out of room in your bowl.

12.  Top with whatever berries you have on hand. Do not top with bananas. I also usually make the top cream layer a little thicker than the other layers.

Put in the freezer until ready to serve.

These measurements are what I used to make this in my trifle bowl, which is a fairly large size. If making for yourself or your family only, you can make this much smaller with only half of the ingredients.

 

Leftovers are wonderful for breakfast!!!

 

I hope you enjoy the sweetness of this dessert and the sweetness of Christ!!

May Your Joy Be Full,

Rachel

 

 

                                        





                 

Sweetness of Freedom

By the Citizens

Verse 1

Within my heart’s a rebellious side

Conflicting with the Spirit’s desire

To keep my heart in step with you

So I do not do what I want to do

Verse 2

Only you have the power to break

Every chain I placed around my neck

I heard your call from the pit of death

To surrender all and nothing less

Verse 3

Through the Spirit I have righteousness

Sweet victory over the flesh

I can walk with confidence in you

As you gratify my soul with truth

Chorus

All my life I live to follow

You alone as you change my desires

Liberated by the blood of Jesus

I’ve found life in the sweetness of freedom
 
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Friday, August 9, 2013

How I Washed My Pillows With Homemade Bleach


I feel like I haven’t written a post in a very long time!! Now that my energy is up, at least for now, I’m trying to get more accomplished around my house. I love writing this blog, but in order to tell you how I try and glorify God by serving my family, I have to make my family my priority. So this week, I have been scrubbing and dubbing my apartment (It’s a really large apartment). I’m preparing to move in a couple of months and the cleaner it is now, the easier it will be when we move out.

Lately, I’ve seen several pins on Pinterest about washing pillows. Really, I didn’t even know I was supposed to wash pillows. Well, these pins caused me to look at my uncased pillows. They definitely needed cleaning. I think one of our pillows actually came from my husband’s barracks room from 15 years ago (it was stuffed in the guest room closet).

I decided it was time to wash my pillows. Some of them had come back from a recent camping trip and were in desperate need of washing, some of them were just old.

So to Pinterest I went. I found several post on washing pillows, but I wasn’t really sure I wanted to do it as most suggested. One post seemed great, but would require making a detergent that used laundry soap, borax and dishwasher detergent. That seems like a lot of materials and time. Other articles suggested using chlorine bleach. I don’t even have chlorine bleach in my house. So I decided to wash my pillows using my own homemade laundry detergent (I will share in a future post, I’m still working on making it more green) and my homemade bleach alternative.

After a little research, I learned that bleach can be controversial. Some people love it, some people despise it. I could not find a real valid reason why we shouldn’t use bleach. Personally, I don’t like the smell and I don’t want my son exposed to it any more than necessary. I also have an issue with getting it on my cloths every single time I wash a load of whites. I have ruined so many shirts and my favorite (Lucky Brand) sweat pants. My homemade bleach works really well; it is inexpensive and does not damage my clothes. I can wash my son’s multicolored/white t-shirts and not fade the colors. I also don’t have to worry about chemical reactions from mixing it with other chemicals.

·         One gallon jug (empty, I used an old vinegar jug)

·         1 cup of peroxide

·         1 cup of vinegar or lemon juice

·         Water

·         Lemon essential oil (optional)

Mix peroxide and vinegar in jug. Add water to fill. Add about 10 drops of essential oil.

This mixture will last up to a month in a regular, semi clear bottle. If you put it in a dark bottle, like the kind peroxide comes in, it will last three months. Peroxide turns to water after prolonged exposure to light. I spray painted a couple of old vinegar bottles black and covered with a little mod podge (it’s what I had on hand) to keep it from scratching off. You can make it cute or just functional, it’s up to you!!



As for the pillows, I put them in the washing machine on a normal cycle, with hot water. My washing machine has a soak option, so I let them soak in the washing machine for 30 minutes before the wash cycle started. You could easily do that by not starting the machine for 30 minutes if your machine doesn’t have that option.

Before: Nasty Camping pillow
 I used laundry soap and about 1 cup of my bleach alternative.

I washed two at a time, one on each side of washing tub to even the load.

After!! Clean, white pillow!! 
When the cycle was done, I used two dryer balls in the dryer with them to fluff them back up. You can also use tennis balls to do this.

I only lost two pillows (obviously very cheap pillows) and have more than 10 clean-like new pillows.

I feel so much better knowing my family is laying their heads on clean, like new pillows. And my husband is happy to have his old pillow back!! I don’t think he will get too much more time out of it, but I’m glad he’s happy and sleeping better for now.



The top pillow is a in a white pillow case to compare
         

May Your Joy Be Full,

Rachel

24 If you lie down, you will not be afraid; when you lie down, your sleep will be sweet.

Proverbs 3:24 (ESV)
 
 
 
 
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Thursday, August 1, 2013

14 Years and Finally Going Strong


Almost fifteen years ago I met a boy. I knew right away that this boy was different than the other boys. He dressed a little different, and didn’t really care what anyone thought of him. The chains on his wallet weighed more than a small child. He also had more tattoos than anyone I had ever met in person.

This boy seemed hard and distant to those who didn’t know him, but warmed up quickly after spending a little time with him. The first time we hung out, he told me repeatedly how much Jesus loves us. As we sat in his barracks room, drinking Miller Highlife and wine coolers, he introduced me to MXPX and the Dropkick Murphy’s. I remember thinking to myself, “maybe I should listen to my Mom for once and date a Christian.” I was a Christian, but my relationship with God was at best strained. I didn’t like people to tell me what to do, and that included God.

Fourteen years ago, today, August 2, I married that boy. I would love to say that we loved each other well for the last fourteen years, but that would be untruthful. We did love each other, probably the best we could at that time, but it wasn’t a lasting love. We both needed to learn to love better. Many years and many mistakes went by, while neither of us kept a real relationship with God. It seems year after year, we got further and further from him, making us drift further and further from each other. If we hadn’t been so complacent and lazy, we would have probably divorced somewhere around year seven.

We tried going to church several times in our early marriage, but got discouraged because we felt people judged us because of our tattoos or the way we dressed. Somewhere around our tenth year of marriage, my coworker and friend made me listen to his pastor on our lunch break. It was a sermon about humor in a series called Religion Saves and Nine other Misconceptions. The sermon was really funny and interesting. That night, I played it back to my husband. He was impressed and started listening to this Pastor’s sermons online. A few months later, we made the trip into Seattle to see this church for ourselves. The next week, we went to our most local service and kept going for several years until we moved out of state. This was not a church that judged people, it was a church that loved and taught people.

For the next year, God used this Preacher and Church to break us. Week after week it felt as though every sermon was specifically for us in our own way. By the end of our first year, we both had repented a lot to God and each other. We had not loved each other well. The problems in our marriage wasn’t his fault or my fault, they were our fault.

It took a lot of repentance and forgiveness, but God healed our marriage. I love my husband more now than I ever thought possible. God changed us, and is still changing us. He is teaching us to love like he does. Until we learned his love, we couldn’t love. I put my husband on a pedestal. Most people would say that is very loving, but they would be wrong. It is not love to hold someone to a standard that they cannot possibly live up to. To love him well means to love him with his imperfections and accept that he will disappoint me sometimes. Then I have to be ready to forgive him. To love him well means to realize I am not always right and may need to apologize sometimes. To love my husband well means to respect him. He is the head of our household. God put him in that position and who am I to argue with God? Does it mean I am his servant? Absolutely not!! But I am his helper, and I’m really good at helping. I also get real joy from taking care of my family.

Is my husband perfect? Nope! But he’s perfect for me!!

My husband is a strong and loving leader. He loves God and loves his family. He is generous and a really hard worker. He supports his family with everything he has. He is a wonderful father and a hero to our little boy. I could not imagine spending any part of my life without him. Outside of my salvation through Jesus Christ, my husband is my greatest blessing!! I thank God for giving me my husband and for making my marriage what it is today. I thank my husband for trying to love us like Jesus loves the church. I thank him for leading and supporting our family well. I thank him for loving us well. I can say with a confident heart, though not always perfect, my marriage has exceeded any expectation I may have ever had!!!

May Your Joy Be Full,

Rachel

18 Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord. 19 Husbands, love your wives, and do not be harsh with them.

Colossians 3:18,19

 

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